Life is a wild, crazy, and extreme ride. As I go through my ups and then my downs there is one thing constant I am still standing through it all. Now, I can sit and ponder over all of the things that are lacking in my life and all of the to do list I have scattered around my house but at this very moment I have decided to chill….laugh….love….and just flow. Worrying has never caused any problems to cease in fact worrying brings about more stress and a load of anxiety so the solution for me to the pull myself up and show love, be willing to accept love and laugh a lot. So can you join one for one entire week of no negativity, no hate, no frustration but a week filled with prayer, praise, and showing love the way God intended us to be. Think about how Jesus died to save somebody like you and me yet we refuse to forgive people and show the same love and compassion for human kind. It’s time to stop, drop baggage off, love more and laugh with some positive people….
Enjoy your week and may it be filled with peace, joy, praise, and love in the name of Jesus……
I have been away for far too long but I must admit my retreat was well deserved but( and there is always a but) transitioning my children into public school for the first time was scary as hell, and sort of took away from the cool and laid back writing retreat I planned for myself as soon as I decided to send them off to school.
All mothers and fathers know that somehow plans never seem to flow just as smoothy as you expect. My mama bear smothering over her cubs syndrome didn’t really allow my heart the awesome opportunity to drop my children off cheerfully in the drop off circle and wave goodbye. No, that would have been wayyyy too normal. Instead, I walked them in everyday and stayed close to their sides like white on rice. I think my daughters classmates thought that I actually worked there for a minute but( and there is always a but) somehow motherhood and my burning internal desire to help and save people, places, things, and good music somehow turned my attention away from writing my butt off and into parent volunteer mode and how to teach my babies how to effectively line the toilet, squat, flush with feet and sanitize everything.
Being a Mother isn’t as easy as it seems and in fact it is much more difficult than trying to create an effective protagonist and antagonist or a stream of consciousness piece that my readers will actually understand. In fact, this motherhood remixed with wifehood are the most difficult gigs I have ever had. The freaking expectations are the worse like providing clean clothes daily ( for everyone…ughhh), dinner( or at least groceries in the house..still ughhhhh), and paying bills( somewhat on time……triple ughhh) but I must not complain too much because my husband and I share this cooperative team work makes the dream work ideology that I never seem to get because I never played sports so when we hurdle( I think that’s spelled right) up to figure out our next parental move I sort of just stand there trying to figure out why in the world does my husband still think that he is in college playing ball and gathering around trying to figure out moves.
As you can clearly see I am a bit of a mommy rebel. I am not like those super star, overachieving, fundraising loving, I cook breakfast, lunch and dinner plus volunteer and clean type of moms. Oh, no…..I want to live so I decided to chill. I have realized that this motherhood and wife stuff does not come with an effective manual that fits all and that when I feel like running around in circles screaming and waving my arms frantically in the air; that’s quite normal and even if the laundry closet is my newest hang out spot which I managed to squeeze a bean bag chair into and a mini extra quiet expresso machine that fits perfectly on the middle towel shelf, is normal too(semi). A mommy/wife/writer has to do what she has to do…….
I swear I used to wish that life had a pause button that I could push throughout the day to allow my mind to relax and release but the reality is, life didn’t come with a pause button and it damn sure didn’t come with a handy instructional manual. I am still learning that I will have my blah days and I will have my fantastical days but what I know now more than everything else is that you must learn how to just flow. Yes, I know that this is more easily said, or typed than done but once we learn how to turn off that nasty, mean darn darn right cruel dude named WORRY we will never be able to just release and let be and live… below are so release the worry strategies…
1). Go outside and vent! Talk to God
2). Take the time to breath in and just enjoy the air and how the trees sway
3). Write your prayers out and drop them into your God Box
4). Understand that life ain’t perfect and it can get darn right frightful
5). Learn how to say NO! and take care of yourself first
6). Learn how to let GOOOOOOOO( Sing that darn Frozen theme song it seems to work for me)
7). LAUGH more than your talk and cry( pop in a funny movie or call that crazy friend that makes you laugh)
8). Grab a good book and of course I always recommend any one of mines Southern Secrets, Southern Secrets 2, Honey, I’m Full Figured So What
I was out in my garden today with my husband and as we were looking at our vegetables and fruits my husband turned to me and said, “You know we are just like those plants. You see when my plant was leaning over I went over to it and put a stick up for it to lean on and then I watered it” I looked over and I said to him that the plant is standing strong and he said, ” I gave it a shoulder to lean on and nourishing food”. I sat back and I really took it in and my husband is absolutely correct. We must feed out souls with goodness and have some good people to lean on as well. Gardening has taught me a lot about life, patience, and support on my path of growth. I know now that I need some nutrient rich soil or foundation and then some good food for my plants or soul and then lots of fresh air and nature mixed in with tons of pruning and love.
Ok, I must confess my house was cluttered like crazy yesterday and with a 3 and 5 year old running around I am sure it will be cluttered and jacked up before I finish writing this post. My husband and I decided to go through each room in our house and CLEAR it out. Now, this wasn’t a easy task in fact it was the most horrible experience. I had to actually throw papers and things away that I had held onto for years. I am not sure why? but I think I am a mini hoarder and my husband is a super hoarder and then we had these little baby hoarders so it was time to clear out our space so we could begin to breathe better AND MAKE ROOM FOR NEW THINGS!
Sure enough as soon as I cleared everything out I swear I could feel the positive energy swarm in. Sometimes its imperative to clear out junky things, people and situations in order to clear the space for positivity to manifest. True enough it’s difficult to toss away broken things because deep down inside you just know that the items can be repaired but they are just sitting in your space broken and with that broken energy surrounding it so be ok with trashing things that are broken, messy, and trashy……Make way for things that are fixed and working.
I was passing a church near my home and on the billboard in large letters I saw the phrase WOUNDED HEALER and I started to think that hey, that’s me, a wounded healer. I have been through so much pain and heartache that I can just about relate to a variety of testimonies and have a gift that seems like a curse at times. The gift of feeling the pain and issues of others and being able to relate because I am a wounded healer or better yet I am extremely empathic. Empathy can create a load of issues. If you are an empath or wounded healer you must learn how to separate yourself from stressful situations and scenarios that don’t belong to you. Because of your helpfulness and ability to relate to others you are now carrying around feelings that your don’t own and in this case your wounds are reopened and you are back in your head again with a thousand and one fears, anxieties and woes that have been dumped over and onto you. It is so imperative for empaths or wounded healers to center and clear self regularly.
I am sure you are wondering, how do I center and clear myself and I have a couple of exercises I do. After a client or friend has dumped a boat load of issues onto me I quickly do a chakra clearing meditation, brisk walk on a nature trail, and take a long essential oil and sea salt bath to sort of clear myself. So, if you are a wounded healer/ empathy try some of these activities to clear your energy.
If you are interested in more strategies go to amazon and grab Honey, I’m Full Figured So What by Ross Wright, myself, which has a healing guide or cleansing guide in the back and remember pray and meditate a heck of a lot..