Mommy vs. Fame

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After I snuggled into my bed with my white cheddar popcorn and room temperature red rock ginger ale. I started to flip through my Atlanta Parent magazine realizing at that very moment that I am now like one of those super attentive moms with team shirts and fundraising packets stuck closely to my chest. The very thing that I have dreaded and refused to get into. I was a mom. A mom that really wants that mini- van that I ridiculed for all of those years. Shame! What have I turned into?

The make-up departed when my baby was 2 year old and just forget wearing heels. Baby, I love my sneakers and tights. With a sporty tee of course and combs….what are those anyway? And Fashion has become a foreign word that I can no longer pronounce.

The fact is I am a mother….No, I am this famous lady, or flashy person. I am a mother and I am fine with that. Now, I must admit at times I feel like my identity has went to hell and stayed there because I have changed soooo much. Motherhood brings you into a place you never imagined being. A place that is suppose to take you away for selfish desires and focus on trying your best with the grace of God to raise your children to be God fearing, and productive citizens.

I had to really evaluate some things. Do I need to pump out books galore, go to work everyday, work a part-time job just to accumulate more things and have more time away from my daughters and husband. I think I am  quite fine and blessed maybe I will go for that famous thing when the baby goes off to college. Who knows>>>>>

Love, peace and blessing to you all….

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Love and Laugh Just a Little Bit More….please!!!

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Life is a wild, crazy, and extreme ride. As I go through my ups and then my downs there is one thing constant I am still standing through it all. Now, I can sit and ponder over all of the things that are lacking in my life and all of the to do list I have scattered around my house but at this very moment I have decided to chill….laugh….love….and just flow. Worrying has never caused any problems to cease in fact worrying brings about more stress and a load of anxiety so the solution for me to the pull myself up and show love, be willing to accept love and laugh a lot. So can you join one for one entire week of no negativity, no hate, no frustration but a week filled with prayer, praise, and showing love the way God intended us to be. Think about how Jesus died to save somebody like you and me yet we refuse to forgive people and show the same love and compassion for human kind. It’s time to stop, drop baggage off, love more and laugh with some positive people….

Enjoy your week and may it be filled with peace, joy, praise, and love in the name of Jesus……

Mommy Hide…Say What!

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I finally made it to my bed as I congregated with my pillows, and linen. For once I wasn’t  rushing to get my girls off to school as we search for that one shoe that mysteriously goes missing on the mornings that we wake up a hour late and I wasn’t  impatiently waiting in that long smug infused carpool pick up line. For just once I wasn’t debating with my four year old over the reasons why she shouldn’t be singing that alphabet song and how it has mentally messed up a ton of kids on understanding that L, M, N, O, and P are indeed separate letters.

To be perfectly honest with you all I had  anticipated this moment of slight freedom, peace, quietness, and alone time with my computer and thoughts but somehow my children had some other warped plan oozing out of their minds that didn’t include peace and instead included that awesome enemy of mines, Mr. Frayed Ohhh I’m Going Insane Nerves.

Just as my eyelids started to close after I wrote the most intense scene of my life( well, at least I think so and that’s all that count’s…right???)

And before my body totally relaxed down out of nowhere I heard  it…. the sound of children…two of them…..fighting. Then they shouted out in unison, Mommyyyyyyy and held that y out unti they both ran out of air. One would fade out and then the other one will start right back up. At that moment I realized that my date with myself and my computer and even sleep had been cut short. I figured that I would just sit there in my big comfy bed and maybe they would stop but somehow I should have known a little better.

Then I decided to hide….oh yes…. I decided to hide…. under blankets and covers too until the storm was over. Before I could get settled in I heard my door slowly opening as the hinges creaked and I remained still as I could.

“Mommy is sleep”, one of them whispered

At that moment I think I contemplated on remaining still or running out of the room screaming and yelling leaving them behind looking and wondering what was going on with me. Instead, I remained still. I thought that perhaps I had escaped the children for this one night but then my oldest child with much aggression and authority said, “No she is not…she is pretending”. By now I figured they had me cornered but I wasn’t giving in so quickly so I still didn’t make a noise. I heard somebody sliding over my step stool and I knew that my pretending was over and before I could scream gotcha both of my girls had pulled the covers off of me and even had the nerve to push my laptop over. I looked at them both as they rubbed their little eyes and climbed up on my bed only to snuggle up close to my side. I think we stayed up for a few more hours and after they decided to fall asleep in my bed I pulled out my computer and then wrote the second most wonderful scene of my life…..

Mommy Writers are special people….indeed!!!

Mommy/Writer/ WIFE…….That’s my life

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I have been away for far too long but I must admit my retreat was well deserved but( and there is always a but) transitioning my children into public school for the first time was scary as hell, and sort of took away from the cool and laid back writing retreat I planned for myself as soon as I decided to send them off to school.

All mothers and fathers know that somehow plans never seem to flow just as smoothy as you expect.  My mama bear smothering over her cubs syndrome didn’t really allow my heart the awesome opportunity to drop my children off cheerfully in the drop off circle and wave goodbye. No, that would have been wayyyy too normal. Instead, I walked them in everyday and stayed close to their sides like white on rice. I think my daughters classmates thought that I actually worked there for a minute but( and there is always a but) somehow motherhood and my burning internal desire to help and save people, places, things, and good music somehow turned my attention away from writing my butt off and into parent volunteer mode and how to teach my babies how to effectively line the toilet, squat, flush with feet and sanitize everything.

Being a Mother isn’t as easy as it seems and in fact it is much more difficult than trying to create an effective protagonist and antagonist or a stream of consciousness piece that my readers will actually understand. In fact, this motherhood remixed with wifehood are the most difficult gigs I have ever had.  The freaking expectations are the worse like  providing clean clothes daily ( for everyone…ughhh), dinner( or at least groceries in the house..still ughhhhh), and paying bills( somewhat on time……triple ughhh) but I must not complain too much because my husband and I share this cooperative team work makes the dream work ideology that I never seem to get because I never played sports so when we hurdle( I think that’s spelled right) up to figure out our next parental move I sort of just stand there trying to figure out why in the world does my husband still think that he is in college playing ball and gathering around trying to figure out moves.

As you can clearly see I am a bit of a mommy rebel. I am not like those super star, overachieving, fundraising loving, I cook breakfast, lunch and dinner plus volunteer and clean type of moms. Oh, no…..I want to live so I decided to chill. I have realized that this motherhood and wife stuff does not come with an effective manual that fits all and that when I feel like running around in circles screaming and waving my arms frantically in the air; that’s quite normal and even if the laundry closet is my newest hang out spot which I managed to squeeze a bean bag chair into and a mini extra quiet expresso machine that fits perfectly on the middle towel shelf, is normal too(semi).  A mommy/wife/writer has to do what she has to do…….

Cruel Dude Named Worry

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I swear I used to wish that life had a pause button that I could push throughout the day to allow my mind to relax and release but the reality is, life didn’t come with a pause button and it damn sure didn’t come with a handy instructional manual. I am still learning that I will have my blah days and I will have my fantastical days but what I know now more than everything else is that you must learn how to just flow. Yes, I know that this is more easily said, or typed than done but once we learn how to turn off that nasty, mean darn darn right cruel dude named WORRY we will never be able to just release and let be and live… below are so release the worry strategies…

1). Go outside and vent! Talk to God

2). Take the time to breath in and just enjoy the air and how the trees sway

3). Write your prayers out and drop them into your God Box

4). Understand that life ain’t perfect and it can get darn right frightful

5). Learn how to say NO! and take care of yourself first

6). Learn how to let GOOOOOOOO( Sing that darn Frozen theme song it seems to work for me)

7). LAUGH more than your talk and cry( pop in a funny movie or call that crazy friend that makes you laugh)

8). Grab a good book and of course I always recommend any one of mines Southern Secrets, Southern Secrets 2, Honey, I’m Full Figured So What

Enjoy your week beautiful people and remember to tune into my Blog Talk Show on Thursday @9pm est you can call in to listen 646-929-2723 or stream http://www.blogtalkradio.com/healingflolounge

 

Meditation Gives Me So Much PEACE!!!!

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I swear I left my purse inside of my house about three times to be exact and I literally had to run back in and grab it only to think about something else I was missing or had just plan on forgot. The last time I ran frantically up my stairs and into my house I stopped for a second and remembered to breath and just relax, I figured that maybe I wasn’t meant to meet my friends on time that day so I decided to just plop down on my couch and meditate. Within sections I was walking myself through a total relaxation situation and after 40 mins of a energy clearing meditation I was ready to start my journey again and believe it or not I didn’t forget my purse this time…..

Enjoy your day beautiful people and remember how important it is to STOP….and STILL the mind….

Learn How to STILL that mind of Yours!!!!!

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Meditation is so essential. In order to focus and create a plan to achieve what you desire you must learn how to still that busy mind of yours and stilling your mind can be extremely difficult and stressful especially when you are running around frantically looking for just that one sweet moment of peace. I was at my ob/gyn and every woman I know is never looking forward to experience that huge violation of privacy besides me!!!!! I love the peace and quiet haven the doctors office can bring after dealing with my loud and active 3 and 5 year old and in fact I look at my ob visit as a bit of a vacation at times… I know you all are thinking Ross is insane but this was my reality until I just started to reschedule my children’s schedules around so I could get my meditation in and then I finally started to slowly incorporate meditating in with our morning and afternoon activities and believe it or NOT….It works…Now, it took me two solid weeks of them fussing and not willing to cooperate but it works!!!!!! As a busy business owner and mother I knew I had to get something going because I couldn’t pause the children and a surely couldn’t pause work…. So we must learn how to still our mind and meditate with out odd schedules for our sanity….

You can find meditation exercises in my book Honey, I’m Full Figured So What on amazon and below are a free starter tips…

Crystals ground your energy and a excellent to hold during meditation…

Grab a Lilac Lepidolite, Emerald, Gem Silica Chryscolla

hold it in your left hand and close those eyes and begin to breath in with your nose and exhale and drop those shoulders through your mouth…..

A RELAX…..RELEASE…..AND HEAL…. Join Meditating Beauties June 22, 2014 @grant park for a FREE urban chic guided meditation for more info go to http://www.healingflolounge.weebly.com I hope to see you beautiful people there and enjoy your weekend