Everybody is rushing somewhere with no exact destination. We must learn how to be still, quiet, calm, and listen to what our soul seems to yell out to us at times. Directions for living and being the best at what you love to do so it’s good in fact its great to be still and at peace and learn to flow…Sure, I know that this is more easier said than done so start out in baby steps. For an entire day rest without the phone on, social media, shopping, worrying or doing anything else that causes frustration….relax, mediate, and laugh a heck of a lot and turn on that Happy song and dance the night away with the song stuck on repeat until you believe that you are Happy or until you poof out. Whichever comes first….
Hair seems to be the topic of interest for women all over the world or maybe I shouldn’t make such a broad statement perhaps I should say that in the south within some African American communities and families hair is more important than southern cheese grits.
At a time in my life I equated hair with beauty but it was rarely my natural hair that I found beautiful. My hair was and still is short and a dusty brown color. So of course back then and even now I had a bunch of wigs from short to long and even natural ones. I don’t think it’s anything wrong with wigs and weaves but I personally I had to love my natural hair first and my true self and then if I wanted to do another look by adding a wig or weave then that is my business….right?
It’s not just my business anymore I have two daughters and I had to catch myself because children learn by seeing and interaction and rarely by what is spoken to them so everyday if would put my wig on my daughters were looking up at me thinking that in order to be acceptable and go out that one must put on a wig or straighten their hair and that wasn’t the message I wanted them to get… I wanted them to love how God made them I mean truly love how God made them so even though I battled with my own insecurities about my hair I started wearing my hair everyday and spoke positive about it and loving it…..
Ladies let’s be the example or daughters and communities need…. Let’s love ourselves truly!!!!
Hair ain’t nothing but dead cells anyway!!!!!
Healing Flo 2014
Gardens can teach you so much about life and living. I am sure most of you are wondering how can a garden teach about life? and those of you who are wise already understand that it is a must to start a garden to merely confirm what you are learning about life. Now…. when I first started my garden I had a mixture of fruits and vegetables all in one closed in area and some plants brought specific types of insects and other repelled insects but I had to plant plenty of seeds and even a variety of seeds to figure out which ones would be a great fit for my gardens environment. We, as in…. humans tend to plant a variety of seeds not knowing which ones will kill the other or support the other we just throw them all into the garden and watch as they grow and then we typically move things around and even out of our gardens. Everything PLANTED and every seed sown is NOT meant to stay in your gardens if you expect your garden to flourish. One must tend to their garden and clear out weeds, and bug just as we must know when to uproot relationships and negative situations in our lives. Just like plants in our gardens that decay we must learn how to uproot and toss out decaying and diseased relationships we wouldn’t want to KEEP attracting disease causing bugs into our gardens now would we? Enjoy your Sunday and if you are in Atlanta come join us @Grant Park each and every Sunday for a Sunset Meditation Mixer…….
Peace and Blessings to you all…
I swear I used to wish that life had a pause button that I could push throughout the day to allow my mind to relax and release but the reality is, life didn’t come with a pause button and it damn sure didn’t come with a handy instructional manual. I am still learning that I will have my blah days and I will have my fantastical days but what I know now more than everything else is that you must learn how to just flow. Yes, I know that this is more easily said, or typed than done but once we learn how to turn off that nasty, mean darn darn right cruel dude named WORRY we will never be able to just release and let be and live… below are so release the worry strategies…
1). Go outside and vent! Talk to God
2). Take the time to breath in and just enjoy the air and how the trees sway
3). Write your prayers out and drop them into your God Box
4). Understand that life ain’t perfect and it can get darn right frightful
5). Learn how to say NO! and take care of yourself first
6). Learn how to let GOOOOOOOO( Sing that darn Frozen theme song it seems to work for me)
7). LAUGH more than your talk and cry( pop in a funny movie or call that crazy friend that makes you laugh)
8). Grab a good book and of course I always recommend any one of mines Southern Secrets, Southern Secrets 2, Honey, I’m Full Figured So What
Enjoy your week beautiful people and remember to tune into my Blog Talk Show on Thursday @9pm est you can call in to listen 646-929-2723 or stream http://www.blogtalkradio.com/healingflolounge
I swear I left my purse inside of my house about three times to be exact and I literally had to run back in and grab it only to think about something else I was missing or had just plan on forgot. The last time I ran frantically up my stairs and into my house I stopped for a second and remembered to breath and just relax, I figured that maybe I wasn’t meant to meet my friends on time that day so I decided to just plop down on my couch and meditate. Within sections I was walking myself through a total relaxation situation and after 40 mins of a energy clearing meditation I was ready to start my journey again and believe it or not I didn’t forget my purse this time…..
Enjoy your day beautiful people and remember how important it is to STOP….and STILL the mind….
Meditation is so essential. In order to focus and create a plan to achieve what you desire you must learn how to still that busy mind of yours and stilling your mind can be extremely difficult and stressful especially when you are running around frantically looking for just that one sweet moment of peace. I was at my ob/gyn and every woman I know is never looking forward to experience that huge violation of privacy besides me!!!!! I love the peace and quiet haven the doctors office can bring after dealing with my loud and active 3 and 5 year old and in fact I look at my ob visit as a bit of a vacation at times… I know you all are thinking Ross is insane but this was my reality until I just started to reschedule my children’s schedules around so I could get my meditation in and then I finally started to slowly incorporate meditating in with our morning and afternoon activities and believe it or NOT….It works…Now, it took me two solid weeks of them fussing and not willing to cooperate but it works!!!!!! As a busy business owner and mother I knew I had to get something going because I couldn’t pause the children and a surely couldn’t pause work…. So we must learn how to still our mind and meditate with out odd schedules for our sanity….
You can find meditation exercises in my book Honey, I’m Full Figured So What on amazon and below are a free starter tips…
Crystals ground your energy and a excellent to hold during meditation…
Grab a Lilac Lepidolite, Emerald, Gem Silica Chryscolla
hold it in your left hand and close those eyes and begin to breath in with your nose and exhale and drop those shoulders through your mouth…..
A RELAX…..RELEASE…..AND HEAL…. Join Meditating Beauties June 22, 2014 @grant park for a FREE urban chic guided meditation for more info go to http://www.healingflolounge.weebly.com I hope to see you beautiful people there and enjoy your weekend